Before Weston was even born, music was a huge part of his life. Since Eric regularly is playing music throughout the house, Weston-in-utero for sure heard his daddy's playing from the time fetuses are able to hear (about 5 months). In fact, his first ever kicks I felt were when Eric was playing Tony Rice's version of Church Street Blues next to my stomach (and, no joke--he kicked in time! He's always had perfect rhythm, he claps in perfect time!). Music is a huge part of our life, and when we got in the car to go deliver Weston, I chose our soundtrack carefully, The Kruger Brothers' album, Choices.

In the days after Weston was born and came home, the music we had on in the background of our life set the tone for the sweet days we lived. Lots of Doc Watson, The Carrivick Sisters, Norah Jones, and James Taylor. I must have sung Sweet Baby James to him a million times! I created a "lullaby playlist" of songs I'd sing every night to put him to bed, starting with You Are My Sunshine, On Top of Old Smokey (in honor of my Pop-Pop who knew ALL the verses by heart!), The Riddle Song (a must-know song for my in-laws), The Rainbow Connection, and Sweet Baby James. Even now, when I start to sing one of those songs, it calms him down. In the mornings, on our early morning drives to drop Weston at Granna's before work, we listen to a playlist of Elizabeth Mitchell's music. It's become our soundtrack for watching the sun come up, as we drive in the dewy morning mist.

Music is a huge part of parenthood, which is why I'm so excited to introduce a new series we're hosting on Lovely: Music and Motherhood. I've invited a slew of awesome bloggers to tell us how music impacts their parenting, especially in those early days of motherhood when everything is real and not-real at the same time!

We'll be featuring their posts for the next few weeks on Lovely, so stay tuned for some interesting insight into how music and motherhood are so closely intertwined!

What music got you through those early days of motherhood/fatherhood? What music did you feel was important to introduce your baby to? What music were you so excited to introduce your little one to? Share in comments or on twitter, using #musicmom.  


Top left: Clasp-Name-Bracelet with Evil Eye; Top Right: Single Charm Bracelet; Bottom Left: Wire Name Necklace; Bottom Right: Evil Eye Ring
When I was looking for Long Island based Etsys recently for jewelry, I was taken aback with how lovely the personalized jewelry from Rachael Maloof Designs is. Rachael, a fellow Huntington resident, hand creates each piece of jewelry specifically for the person ordering. I personally fell in love with the clasp-name-bracelet with an evil eye, and as you can see, Rachael kindly provided me with a Weston bracelet for my recent photoshoot with Molly Leon Photography. Rachael's prices are amazing, and any of her pieces would make the perfect gift for someone you love. In fact, I loved my bracelet so much that I had Rachael make one for Jenny too (Weston "calls" her Tati!). I love supporting local Long Island Etsy shops, and I am so excited to be featuring Rachael Maloof Designs today...and, Rachael has been unbelievably kind (especially since she's due to give birth soon!) and is offering one Lovely reader a custom clasp-name-bracelet with evil eye! See below for how to win this gorgeous bracelet...

Photo by Molly Leon Photography


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Kindergartners from Ilsan, South Korea; photo by their former teacher, Charlotte Hammond
As a private school teacher, I often remind my students that there is a world beyond the ivy-walls. I want them to see culture, think globally, and learn from other civilizations. However, sometimes I need a taste of my own medicine. I had a truly a-ha moment a few weeks ago, and it's been on my mind since. 

A colleague of mine did a Habitat for Humanity project in Cambodia, and she was showing us all a slide show of her adventures there. The family she was building for had many small children and babies, and because she was there a few weeks, she had a first hand look at the family dynamics. First thing she noted, as she showed a photo of a grinning adorable little girl, was that none of the babies wore diapers! Can you even imagine? They spend most of the day outside, and she said, "they went without diapers and were the happiest little babies." Interesting! Then, she showed us an image of the grandmother, under a shelter, with many small babies around her. She explained that the grandmother took care of all the babies while the parents worked, and even after they came home. I always feel a sense of guilt that I chose (with Eric) to have a baby and now my mother (and sister) are taking care of him while I work...but, it really does take a village, and this is (duh) not a new phenomenon. Historically speaking, maternal grandmothers have stuck around because it was their job to care for the new generation. The grandmother in Cambodia was more than happy to help raise her grandchildren, and she felt it was her right and duty to help raise them. 

But, the a-ha moment came when she showed a photo of the finished house. It was two rooms. And, living in that house would be the parents, grandparents, and all the children and babies. It quickly dawned on me that in their culture, the thought of children getting their own room would be a truly preposterous concept! Of course the children slept with their parents, they didn't have room for the babies to have a decorated, Pinterest-y nursery. They would think that we, American parents, are off our rockers for pushing a baby into their own bed, and their own room. Further, I bet that these Cambodian parents didn't feel the need to label their bed a "family bed," it was simply the space where they all slept! 

Sometimes, we get so caught up in our Mommy-Blog, Pinterest, Google Search, Book Buying...and we forget that there are parents in this world who don't have the options we do. While of course we have to remember that the baby is in bed with us, as parents, I can guarantee you that these Cambodian parents didn't sit down and Google, "benefits of family bed," or "dangers of family bed." That's just their way of life, and it works for them because it has to. We, as an American Parent Culture, tend to over-think, over-analyze, and over-do every little thing when it comes to parenting. Which is why I wrote my post on my parenting style and released the chains inside my head about being a strict, organized parent. Because my life isn't strict and organized....why should I drive myself crazy worrying about every detail when it comes to my parenting? Is my son safe, happy, educated, and loved? Check to all of those boxes. We're told that children need boundaries, rules, limits...and yes, as a seasoned teacher, I can attest to that, but at the same time, those boundaries and rules have to work within our family, and for us, as parents, as well. 

By seeing these gorgeous happy Cambodian children, it really brought me back to reality. We live in huge world, and there are parents all over the place who parent in a totally different manner than we do in America. For example, did you know some Chinese parents potty-train their kids at 6 months? We would think that was insane in America, and they would think we were crazy for spending so much money and space on diapers. I want my son to see the world from a global point-of-view, but that means I have to change my POV, as well. It's time to pop that parenting-in-America-bubble and learn from my global counter-parts. 


Photo by Charlotte Hammond
 Obviously these photos are not of Cambodian children, but I thought it would be apt in a post about global parenting to include photos by a Lovely writer, Charlotte Hammond. You can see more of her photos on her website. 



The other day I had an article published on Dr. Cordain's The Paleo Diet all about my path to paleo-hood, post pregnancy and why I feed Weston a paleo diet. In the piece, I do discuss generally about feeding Weston, but I wanted to share some more specifics. As we're approaching the one year mark (what!), and he's been eating solids for over four months now, I've discovered some staple foods which are integral to our journey on the paleo path for babies. These are foods which work for Weston, and I do have his pediatrician's blessing for a paleo lifestyle; remember, always check with your pediatrician before starting any new food-lifestyle, and always watch for allergies with your little one. Because we tend to have a myriad of weird allergies in the family, I always watch him carefully, make sure to not start a brand new food at a time I can't reach the doctor, and am staying away from foods which I 100% know someone blood related to him as a severe allergy to (I asked his pediatrician about this and she said even if an aunt or uncle has a severe allergy to something, don't give it to him yet!). But, I've found a group of foods which I have to keep in the house, because when the boy is hungry, he can really eat!

Frozen foods: I love the convenience of frozen foods; I love the Cascadian Farms brand; they are easy to find at my local market and always fresh and ready to go. If you open my freezer at any given moment, you will definitely find a few bags of blueberries, squash, and peas. Weston adores blueberries, and I'm so glad, because they're full of anti-oxidants! With the frozen blueberries, I throw them in the food processor with coconut milk, and banana; essentially, a smoothie. I keep it thick, and spoon about two tablespoons into non-bleached cupcake liners, then freeze those in zip-top bags. This way, when it comes time for a meal, I simply defrost the cup'o'smoothie, add a little juice or more banana, and it's a meal (or part of a meal). With the squash, I also will throw in the food processor, but add some chicken broth (either homemade, or the organic Costco brand), so it becomes a thick puree. I freeze that in the same method, and when I defrost it, I add avocado, more chicken soup, or some pear juice. The peas are a staple because I mix them into everything for a little added green. He doesn't notice the flavor, and it adds some bulk to his meals.

Fruits and Veggies: As a sweet potato lover myself, I was thrilled when Weston took to them. I simply poke holes in a potato, microwave it on each side for about 4 minutes, and...dinner! He loves his with coconut milk and pumpkin pie spice mix. And...it is indeed delicious. I once was so hungry I ate an entire container of the mash I made for him. Sweet potato is what I like to call a meal "base," I tend to use it a lot and add other mix ins (peas, pears, chicken soup) to make a complete meal. Bananas are another one of his favorites; he also loves a ripe banana with coconut milk and cinnamon; often I make "banana-cado" with banana and avocado mashed together. Avocado is a staple in the house that we can't live without! I'll split an avocado with him for dinner; he gets it mashed with some garlic and chicken soup, and I'll eat mine on a salad (or uh, right out of the shell). I love that avocados have healthy fats and good calories for such an active boy. We also keep oranges, pears, plantains, carrots, and parsnips in the house, as he loves all of those (I steam the carrots and parsnips and then mash).

Protein: When it comes to protein, we haven't ventured into crazy-places yet. But, the boy does love his mama's chicken soup! I'll make a large pot of bone-broth soup, with onions, carrots, chicken, and parsnips. I blend his up for him, and he slurps it down. Bone broth has amazing benefits, so I feel really lucky that the boy loves it so much.

Juices: Coconut milk isn't a juice, but it is a staple for us! I only buy the Natural Value brand on Amazon, as it has no BPA in the can, and the only ingredients are water and coconut. We run through this like crazy. I also keep organic pear and prune juice (Knudsen's brand), and freshly squeezed orange juice. To be clear, he doesn't drink juice straight, but I use small amounts to turn his food into purees. We also keep a stock of Kirkland Brand chicken stock in the house, I love all the natural ingredients. I use this to "water down" his foods.

The trick I've found in preparing paleo food for Weston is to keep it simple, yet fun. We try all sorts of combinations, spices, and textures. He rarely eats the same thing for two meals in a row. I'm proud that my son enjoys eating fruits and vegetables, and I'm glad that I also enjoy preparing it all for him!